May
15
2012
By John Curran
I decided to write this blog post today to discuss why I believe environment is critical to your success. By sharing my story, I hope to inspire you to step outside your comfort zones in spite of fear. Recently I relocated from Massachusetts to San Diego because of the beautiful year round weather and the opportunity to accelerate the growth of my life coaching business.
I had been planning to relocate to San Diego for the last few years, however I kept resisting stepping outside my comfort zone to do it. Most of the resistance that I was feeling was fear based, such as fear of uncertainty, fear of the unknown, and fear of not being able to support myself while I build my coaching practice. I recently left a 30 year career in the medical field to follow my dreams of building a successful life coaching practice here in San Diego. I sold everything I owned including a Mustang GT convertible that I recently paid off, and used the money for airfare, moving expenses, and start-up costs for my life coaching business.
One of the biggest things that I've realized now that I've made this shift outside my comfort zone is that I've grown so much personally and professionally. During this transformational process I've had to reinvent myself, and breakthrough many obstacles in order to reach the goals that I set for myself. By placing myself in a new environment I've been forced to adapt to the new surroundings and become resourceful with the resources that I currently have. I have heard many successful people state that you are the average of the 5 friends you associate most with in terms personal and professional success. Now that I've relocated to San Diego, I will be making connections with new people who will stretch me personally and professionally to achieve greater success and fulfillment.
None of this would have been possible without the help of many friends and life coaches in the coaching community that I'm a part of. They have inspired, challenged, and provided an objective perspective when I needed it most. I want to acknowledge each of you for the significant role you've played in my life, and in my success. You know who you are.
I arrived in San Diego with no car or place to live, and have since purchased a BMW convertible and found a nice apartment in La Jolla to rent. I share these things with you not to impress you, but to impress upon you the importance of being resourceful with the resources that you currently have. I have an immense amount of appreciation and gratitude for the good fortune that has come my way over the last month. I feel like a giant magnet who is attracting the resources I need to realize my full potential and reach my goals. There are two quotes that I would like to share with you before I wrap up because they relate to this article, and some of the lessons I've learned.
"Comfort zones are like plush lined coffins.When you stay in your plush lined coffin, you die" -Stan Dale
"Stop cheating on your future with your past. It’s over, move on. " -Author Unknown
I hope something I've said in this blog article today strikes an emotional chord within you to step outside your comfort zone and embrace change. Hopefully I've given given you a greater awareness of why environment is critical to your success. I believe your happiness and personal fulfillment depends on it.
I challenge you to step outside your comfort zone and do something different. Please let me know what actions you've taken or what actions your going to take to change your environment in some way. For example, it could be changing the location of where your live, or maybe changing the circle of friends you currently associate with, or even something simple like changing the location of the furniture in your home office or house. I look forward to connecting with you and hearing about how changing your environment has impacted your life.
About Coach John:
I am a Certified Master Coach and Work-Life Balance Expert who works with self-employed professionals who struggle with focus, time issues, overload or feeling stuck. I help them to remove any obstacles and blocks to achieving balance in their personal and professional life.
If you are feeling out of balance and think that MAYBE coaching could make a difference for you, consider setting up an initial consultation and seeing what it’s like. No fee, no pressure. E-mail me or go to breakthrough to Success and fill out the form with a few times you could be available, and please include your time zone. I’ll get back to you!
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Apr
24
2012
When you attend an Anthony Robbins seminar, you will come out of that experience with your eyes opened to a lot of new ideas. And probably the most amazing new ideas you will learn from Robbins' teaching will have to do with how you tick as a person.
The human heart and mind are complicated things and much of the reason why we get derailed in life has to do with our lack of understanding of how we tick as people. That is one of the real values of learning the principles that come from reading an Anthony Robbins book or hearing him speak. You begin to decipher yourself and in doing so, you get control in ways that were never possible before.
Our emotions are an area that we sometimes have trouble understanding how we can get control. They seem to come and go under their own set of rules and many times we become slaves to our emotions. You knew before you picked up your first Robbins book that this is a problem. When sudden surges of emotions take over and hinder your work or your time with someone important, that is when we need some methods for becoming the boss of our emotions and not let them boss us around any more.
Robbins does not teach that we should suppress or get rid of our emotions. Not only would that dehumanize us if that were even possible, it is not even desirable. Our emotions are our control panel to our inner machinery. It is our emotions that surface our true values and what really is important to us. Suppressing the emotions would not only cut us off from important information about our priorities, it is dangerous to us as people. To be healthy people, our emotions must have a healthy way to be expressed and to be part of who we are every day. The key is to take control of the meaning behind our emotions and in doing so, take control of how our emotions motivate us.
The link between meaning and emotion seems a bit odd when you first hear it. But the more you think about it, the more sense it makes. Basically, it is grounded in the fact that our emotions are tied to what we value and what is important to us. Hence, we will get emotional about things relative to our own family but not things that happen to other people's family. Emotions also are tied to our ambitions in life. So if I am frustrated in my goals at work, that causes anger, despair, frustration and other negative emotions but if I see things "going my way", strong positive emotions will arise.
Maybe the biggest break through of Anthony Robbins teachings about the linkage of meanings and emotions is that this knowledge gives us power to control our emotions, not by trying to suppress our natural instincts but by understanding the priorities and areas of personal devotion that cause emotions to come to the surface, sometimes inappropriately.
This can happen easily at work. It is good to be ambitious for your personal goals at work. But when you place a high value or meaning on your personal ambitions so much so that they conflict with the ambitions of peers at work, conflicts can arise. By understanding how this works, you can mitigate your ambitions by seeing that your own career goals must also be balanced with the goals of the company and of your fellow workers. By beginning to see them as partners and friends and not competitors, you capture control of the emotions that may have lead to ugly outbursts in the past.
You can apply this principle to any area where emotion is hurting your progress in life or causing you pain or embarrassment rather than joy and the power emotion can give you to accomplish your dreams. Many of Anthony Robbins' teachings help us become the boss of not only what emotions we feel but what we feel emotional about. There is no doubt that getting that kind of control over this volatile part of your personality may be one of the most powerful benefits you can get from any of Anthony Robbins outstanding teachings.
About the Author:
I am a Certified Master Coach and Work-Life Balance Expert who works with self-employed professionals who struggle with focus, time issues, overload or feeling stuck. I help them to remove any obstacles and blocks to achieving balance in their personal and professional life.
If you are feeling out of balance and think that MAYBE coaching could make a difference for you, consider setting up an initial consultation and seeing what it’s like. No fee, no pressure. E-mail me or go to breakthrough to Success and fill out the form with a few times you could be available, and please include your time zone. I’ll get back to you!
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Apr
22
2012
The word "millionaire" dominates the positive thinking world. That word has become a byword for phenomenal success and the realization of your dreams. It dominates The Secret and dozens if not hundreds of books, articles and web sites devoted to teaching you and I how to use the power of your mind to make good come to you and to take that power and become a millionaire.
Here is the problem. What is a millionaire? A millionaire, at a very basic definition is a person who owns one million dollars of money. Now you can play around about if that wealth is represented in the form of an actual bank balance or it exists in form of holdings such as homes, stocks and bonds. But the definition holds that a millionaire is defined by a certain some of financial wealth. And the fact that the word "millionaire" dominates the world of positive thinking and self-empowerment would give you the impression that getting money is the only goal.
It is helpful to recognize that probably the most successful writer and teacher on how to turn your life around, Anthony Robbins, does not focus on that specific sum of money as the final judgment of whether you have realized your dreams in life. And because his teaching gives us greater depth of what it means to be able to summon your powers of self-motivation to achieve success, that teaching moves us away from the idea that "becoming a millionaire" is the end all and be all of success.
It isn’t bad to want to be able to afford a nice lifestyle for you and your family. It isn't bad to want to reach a level of success that you and others can see that you are successful and that visual signal of success is in the form of wealth. But to fixate on money and on a specific amount of money at that robs the teachings on self-development that are what make the books and seminars of Anthony Robbins so helpful to millions of people.
By letting the realization of a large sum of money become the central goal of any self-development program turns you from looking within yourself to find what it means to you to be a success and forces you toward a quest of seeking monetary wealth. It also means that if someone who is trying to achieve the goal of using the law of attraction and other self-development tools to get a million dollars suddenly lucks into money, he will think that his quest is over because he got a million dollars.
What Anthony Robbins teaches is not about money at all. Money may be part of your dream in life and once you start your climb out of failure to success, money may be part of it. But everyone in the world doesn’t have the life of becoming a millionaire in their destiny. And by removing the trapping that getting a million dollars is the goal of all who learn to use positive thinking techniques, Robbins' teaching allows you to look to your own calling in life to discover what your destiny is on this earth. And once you find that destiny from within, Robbins gives you the abilities and skills to reach out and grab that goal and make it your own.
It is only in this way that any of us can come to a place of final satisfaction. Robbins cannot define for me what my destiny is any more than I can define that for you. But Robbins does teach you and I how to reach out and make our dreams come true. And that is by far a better gift than even getting a million dollars.
About the Author:
I am a Certified Master Coach and Work-Life Balance Expert who works with self-employed professionals who struggle with focus, time issues, overload or feeling stuck. I help them to remove any obstacles and blocks to achieving balance in their personal and professional life.
What separates my service from other work/life balance coaches is that I ONLY work self-employed businesses and I ONLY specialize in work/life balance, nothing else. Because of this my clients receive proven, time-tested, specific information on how to have less stress, create more balance, harmony, and fulfillment in their personal and professional life.
My ideal clients are willing to play full out, committed to being coach-able, responsible for their results, and committed to the coaching process, even if it's uncomfortable. They see the value of investing in their personal development, and are willing to commit 100% to their goals.
If you are feeling out of balance and think that MAYBE coaching could make a difference for you, consider setting up an initial consultation and seeing what it’s like. No fee, no pressure. E-mail me or go to breakthrough to Success and fill out the form with a few times you could be available, and please include your time zone. I’ll get back to you!
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Apr
22
2012
There is an evolution of thought we have to go through if we are going to reach for the ultimate in what we want from life. That is the goal any of us have that decide to take advantage of the teachings of people like Anthony Robbins who know how to guide us to great wealth and achievement. There is a cycle of commitment we go through. It might start with curiosity and then with taking on the learning cycle of attending Anthony Robbins seminars and reading his books.
At some point, the teaching begins to take hold and you actually find yourself changing in how you think and how you view the world. This might even happen before you make a conscious decision to implement the teachings of Anthony Robbins in your life. But even at a very early level, you will begin to see the results. You will be more energetic and find yourself able to control your thoughts easier and focus better on goals that you set for yourself.
But there comes a moment when your dedication to the discipline of using Robbins' teachings to reach for only the best in life will cross a threshold and you will be ready to become a true disciple of the process and take seriously your commitment to achieving wealth and becoming a master of your own thoughts and emotions. This is an important moment that much of the training you have been going through in the teaching of Anthony Robbins has been preparing you for. But it is a moment when empowering yourself to achieve your dreams stops being a hobby or a game and it becomes the most important thing you are doing in your life.
It isn’t the teaching that makes it important. The teaching is a resource, a tool and a vehicle to take you from a life of limitations and of accepting defeat in your life to a life of mental power and the ability to focus your energies to succeed in any goal you set out to conquer. You will learn some important skills along the way. You will learn to control your thoughts so negative thoughts that seek to trap you in defeat are not welcome in your mind. You will also learn to work with your emotions rather than against them so you can use your emotions as power generators to propel you toward your goals.
But perhaps the most potent skills and tools Anthony Robbins' teachings will give you will be the power of focus and self will. At first identifying what your dream meant to you and what "achieving wealth" looked like in your mind was something you were playing with because it was fascinating. But as you have become more and more serious that this goal was not an option but the central quest of this part of your life, your focus becomes crystal clear and your self will and resolve so stubborn that you will NOT let down, make excuses and settle for less ever again. That may have been how you handled your dreams early in life but that will not do any more.
You have your own reasons for taking the discipline to realize real wealth that seriously. But the teachings of Anthony Robbins are clear that passing through that mental threshold where compromise is not an option is a crucial step that you must accomplish if you hope to see success in your quest for fulfillment and satisfaction.
Where that distant dream was once a whim, it now defines who you are. What you have learned in your early months of the program is that your dreams always defined you. You just did not live up to who you were meant to be because you settled for second best. But Robbins has shown you that second best is never good enough. And because your will and focus are firm, you will not stop until you have realized your dream and the wealth and accomplishment you were made to achieve has been accomplished. You will never be the same again because you learned to live the life of a winner. And that is a very good thing indeed.
About the Author:
I am a Certified Master Coach and Work-Life Balance Expert who works with self-employed professionals who struggle with focus, time issues, overload or feeling stuck. I help them to remove any obstacles and blocks to achieving balance in their personal and professional life.
What separates my service from other work/life balance coaches is that I ONLY work self-employed businesses and I ONLY specialize in work/life balance, nothing else. Because of this my clients receive proven, time-tested, specific information on how to have less stress, create more balance, harmony, and fulfillment in their personal and professional life.
My ideal clients are willing to play full out, committed to being coach-able, responsible for their results, and committed to the coaching process, even if it's uncomfortable. They see the value of investing in their personal development, and are willing to commit 100% to their goals.
If you are feeling out of balance and think that MAYBE coaching could make a difference for you, consider setting up an initial consultation and seeing what it’s like. No fee, no pressure. E-mail me or go to breakthrough to Success and fill out the form with a few times you could be available, and please include your time zone. I’ll get back to you!
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Apr
18
2012
I was one of five life coaches who was selected to be interviewed about life coaching by Eric Archer from the Wellesley Media Group. Excerpts from this interview were used for an episode of "Inside Wellesley". In this interview, Erich examines the barriers to self-advancement that people experience from time to time. Fear, anxiety procrastination, and self-sabotage can leave us feeling stuck, unable to take the necessary steps toward the futures that we imagine for ourselves. To combat these innermost challenges, many people hire a life coach -- someone skilled in the arts of organization, strategy, and accountability who can give us the tools for achieving clarity of purpose and the ability to move forward. In this interview I share my perspective on this ambiguous industry, how it all works, and why I believes it is so beneficial. I also share my philosophies about success, and several other topics relating to life coaching. After watching the video, please let me know what you think by posting a comment below
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I am a Certified Master Coach and Work-Life Balance Expert who works with self-employed professionals who struggle with focus, time issues, overload or feeling stuck. I help them to remove any obstacles and blocks to achieving balance in their personal and professional life.
What separates my service from other work/life balance coaches is that I ONLY work self-employed businesses and I ONLY specialize in work/life balance, nothing else. Because of this my clients receive proven, time-tested, specific information on how to have less stress, create more balance, harmony, and fulfillment in their personal and professional life.
My ideal clients are willing to play full out, committed to being coach-able, responsible for their results, and committed to the coaching process, even if it's uncomfortable. They see the value of investing in their personal development, and are willing to commit 100% to their goals.
If you are feeling out of balance and think that MAYBE coaching could make a difference for you, consider setting up an initial consultation and seeing what it’s like. No fee, no pressure. E-mail me or go to breakthrough to Success and fill out the form with a few times you could be available, and please include your time zone. I’ll get back to you!
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