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It Just Doesn’t Feel Comfortable

Coach Curran — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:18:51 +0000

This is a post that I want to share with you from my friend Kevin Levine. There are some valuable lessons that we can all learn from his story, especially doing what’s uncomfortable…

I once heard it said that self improvement is just another word for changing oneself. And doing that isn’t comfortable and takes courage. There are lots of things that aren’t comfortable to do, like doing what’s right. I found myself in that kind of situation this week. It’s easy to just take the least path of resistance and that is what I had been doing. However, one thing I have found even if I don’t do it right off the bat like I should, is I always feel better after I do the right thing no matter how long it takes or how difficult it is to take action in that direction.

You’re probably wondering what it is that happened this week to inspire me to write about the topic of self improvement. Well, I’ll tell you and then I’ll give you a bonus example to help bring everything home for you. I have been working for a manager that has been showing his lack of people skills to most everyone in the department. However, he has shown an extreme lack of leadership and professionalism directed to me over and beyond anyone else in the department. For about 2 and ½ years I’ve been utilizing my self improvement skills to counter his brash of insults, disrespect, condescending behavior and inequity decision making towards me. Also, during this time I tried to work with him and help him to grow by providing him feedback and opportunity to open the paths of communication and cooperative interfacing. None of that worked and so this week I attempted to put a stop to it and sent him a message that this kind of behavior is not only unacceptable, but will not be tolerated any longer. I notified his manager who was completely unaware of the things he had been doing. Keep in mind if you are in a similar situation that this action may not be the right one for you, but it was for me.

Now the point is I could have kept on “taking it” or I could have “ran for the hills” and left the company. Perhaps I could have done any number of things in an attempt to resolve the issue. This one individual was acting in this way and all other employees exhibit a very professional behavior. So for me, I believed leaving the company isn’t worthwhile over one person even if the person is my boss. I’m sure most people have been placed into situations where they have to work with difficult people and that my situation isn’t unique. So, I’m sure you can relate and I feel really good about getting this issue on the road to resolution. Not only will I be helping myself, but I’ll be helping others that work with him as well, now and in the future. I’m sure he will learn from this experience as he is new to management.

Here’s the bonus example. I was with an organization that some changes were made that went against my morals, like being truthful and open with others who had a vested interest, seeking to understand and work through differences, searching for solutions that are in everyone’s best interest and so on. Because the behavior of this organization went against my core values, I could no longer be affiliated with it and I left and found another place that I believe is in harmony with my core values. It wasn’t easy, took courage, and it didn’t feel comfortable to do, but it was the right thing to do. My suggestion to you is to do what feels right and not what is always the easiest thing to do.

Thanks very much everyone and have a great week,

Kevin Levine

Mr. Self Help

Believe Yourself To Success Because Belief Equals Possibility

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Taking Time for Reflection

Coach Curran — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:10:09 +0000

In our busy lives, we often forge to take time for reflection. Our days are filled with activities centered around work, family, finances, relationships, and so on. Demands for our time are placed on us by everyone so it’s easy to understand why wemay sometimes neglect our own need for reflection. Why is reflection important? Reflection is valuable because it gives us an opportunity to look at our life with fresh new insightso that we can find ways to improve what we now doing. There are always areas of our life that can use some improvement. As you know, when we look at situations and opportunities with hindsight, our vision becomes 20/20. Practicing mental dress rehearsals is an effective method for achieving successful results. This can be done during times of reflection. Taking thirty to sixty minutes a day for reflection is good preventative maintenance for our mind, body, and spirit so that we can recharge our batteries. Are you taking time for reflection? Give it a try and watch what happens. The results will speak for themselves!

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Inner Beauty

Coach Curran — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 19:59:50 +0000

In today’s world of fashion

and sculpted bodies,

we sometimes loose sight

of the real beauty in each person.

Every person possesses an inner beauty

if we take the time to look for it.

Beyond the physical limitation and distortion

lies a creature of beauty.

As the saying goes,

“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.”

No truer words were ever spoken.

With an increased emphasis

placed on external beauty,

it’s easy to understand why

we sometimes loose sight

of the real beauty

lying inside each one of us.

Outer beauty is only temporary as we age.

Inner beauty is something

that will last for a lifetime.

And it’s permanent, once we find it.

Take the time to find it in each person,

and it will open your eyes

to all the beauty that is around you.

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Life Energy

Coach Curran — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 03:35:27 +0000

Your spirit fills me with warmth,

love, joy, and happiness.

True love does not restrict

the flow of life energy,

nor does it try to harness it.

It simply works in partnership

to create something even greater

that has the power to endure.

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Painting with Words

Coach Curran — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:44:50 +0000

A man named Walter Keane first introduced the concept of painting with words to me. He is a writer and artist whose works have been displayed all over the world. I met him when I was in a coffee shop, working on this book. We talked for only a few minutes because he was waiting for another person to arrive.

He came over to the table where I was sitting and asked me what I was working on. I told him about this book and asked for his input regarding the layout and design. He suggested that I consider reducing the number of pictures that were part of the first draft, and focus on painting a picture with my words.

I decided to take his advice and redesign this book. More importantly, my purpose in sharing this story with you is to get you to think about the idea of painting with your words. If you enjoy writing, I encourage you to “paint with your words.” Your words can have a powerful effect on others with the pictures they paint!

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